Expressing how we truly feel in a couple words can be difficult. Especially when we are trying to offer sympathy to someone during the loss of a loved one. This is particularly why writing sympathy cards can become a very difficult task. Both saying how we feel and trying to be as respectful to those deeply affected by the loss can offer a lot of challenge.
It’s important to keep in mind that there is no one right way to express sympathy. Every relationship and situation we have is different, and each deserves their own card. In an effort to make sympathy cards a little less difficult, we have outlined some helpful insight into writing a well-written card.
1. What not to write
We need to be careful when writing sympathy cards. While our thoughts may be in the right place, what we end up writing can end up having a negative reaction. Try to avoid relating to the death as we all tend to process grief differently. Don’t try to dwell on the hardships too much. Try not to offer any advice, or predict how well someone is going to recover. Sympathy cards are best when kept short, concise and written with the pure objective of offering support and comfort.
2. Offering condolences
It is best to begin your letter of sympathy by offering your condolences. It’s important not to dwell on the hardship at hand. The receiver of your card would be much better served with a short offering of condolences.
“We are very sorry for your loss”
“Our whole family is thinking of you”
“Henry will sorely be missed”
3. Sharing something positive
As we mentioned previously, it’s not always a great idea to dwell on the negative. Instead, we have the opportunity to share something positive about the life that was. Focusing on the good aspects of the deceased and what they meant to you could inspire a happy memory to the reader of your card.
“I’ll miss Irene’s great big laugh”
“Clarence touched so many lives”
“Nobody could entertain a group of people like your father”
4. Offering some help
Dealing with the loss of a loved one is very difficult. Everyday tasks like yard work, groceries and making meals are the last on the list of priorities. If you are in a position to help in any way, offer to help with something.
“I can only imagine how painful this must be, I just want you to know I’m here if you need me”
“If there’s anything I can do for you, please give us a call”
“With so much on your mind right now, Mary and I would love to take care of your garden”
5. In closing
It can be just 2 to 4 words, but for whatever reason, it can be very difficult to end a sympathy letter. Sometimes the right words can be very difficult to choose. Here are a few examples that might make it easier for you.
“With our deepest sympathy”
“Thinking of you at this time”
“Our sincere condolences”
“Keeping you in our prayers”
“Wishing you peace and love”
Funerals are a stressful time for us all. If we can take away any stress and provide any comfort and support we can, we do so. That’s why we at the Elephas Group take a lot of pride in the work we do. When people plan their funerals in advance, their families have more time to focus on the love, support, and positivity around them, rather than making tough financial decisions.